Lately I have noticed a heightened awareness to the issue of gay marriage and homosexuality. Personally, I have family members and friends who have made the choice to live the gay lifestyle and share their experience with a “life-partner”. I am neither pro-gay, nor am I against the gay lifestyle. I am impartial and my wish is happiness to anyone who finds a special someone to share his or her life with, after all, isn’t that what is most important in life—happiness.
The argument: Is it morally right [just and deserved] to legally approve civil union in homosexual relationships? It is a civil rights matter and most importantly it is a matter of control over a group of persons, their ideals and their desires based solely on their sexual preferences. Americans are now told that it is unacceptable to separate homosexual relationships and although marriage is a “holy” covenant shared between man and woman, same sex relationships must have their own category, hence civil union. The Church and the State have crossed many bridges [managed to avoid some and yet they have burned many] in attempting to determine what is best for the public, for the people, for my family and for my friends?
The State has absolutely no clue who I am other than a nine-digit number at tax time [social security number] and the Church who would only know my name if I decided to cut them a check every week [and that excludes mega-churches who for the most part never come to know you on a personal basis, which is why they are so popular now-a-days—anonymity, but that’s another article]. Neither the State nor the Church knows I exist aside from taxes, donations, voting, and the establishment of assemblage when it comes to attending Sunday service.
The State envisions pleasing the people. The problem is, America is highly populated with Christians, close-minded bible thumping Old Testament self-appointed moral compasses who feel compelled to dictate the laws, attitudes, and actions of America’s non-Christian populous.
If that last sentence feels unwarranted and somewhat judgmental, it is! However, this is to make a point. Christians are all those things from time to time, close-minded, bible thumping, self-appointed moral compasses and so on. They take the position that people who make the choice to follow the gay lifestyle are an abomination and Christians claim God has ordained this position thus justifying Christians horrid behaviors and outburst against the gay community for the choices homosexuals have made.
Just for the record, there is not one single reference in the bible directly speaking to the homosexual relationship. However, there are passages speaking against sodomy and same sex rape and it is these passages the Christian community takes refuge in as references of God speaking out against homosexuality.
In the first place, we need to take several factors into consideration. Sodomy was rampant in Old Testament days. Men were shunning their wives for other men and they were taking young boys as sex partners. Christians notoriously take passages out of context and contort them to fit their agenda. The Old Testament [written thousands of years ago] has been used by Christians to denounce the gay community, however Christians who take these passages out of context should consider that in the Old Testament they offered animal sacrifices to God upon an alter and children were bartered in marriage, not to mention slavery was an acceptable practice and so was public stoning of your wife by simply stating she brought you embarrassment. So why is it that Christians are so willing to take hold of Old Testament passages that fit their agenda when it comes to gay lifestyle and homosexuality, but not so willing to adhere to all Old Testament moral law and value?
In the New Testament, there are no passages, parables or otherwise elusive references made to the homosexual lifestyle. Why do you think this is? However, there are many commandments in the New Testament referencing heterosexual relationships, which are not followed by the Christian community.
Today, in the event a Christian man dies, does his brother marry his widow? If not, why not? That is a direct commandment from the bible [Mark 12:18-27]. Has any man not married a virgin in the twenty-first century? According to the bible if a man marries a woman found not to be a virgin she is to be stoned to death [Deuteronomy 22:13-21]. Adulterers are to be stoned to death [Deuteronomy 22:22]. Adultery is rampant even in the church today.
So why is it that Christians take the Old Testament passages referencing sodomy [definition according to dictionary.com 1) anal or oral copulation with members of the opposite sex 2) copulation with a member of the same sex.] and are so willing pass them off as Gods damnation against the gay community, but Christians are not willing to enforce the New Testament commandments set down thousands of years after the Old Testament?
I will tell you why. Christians forget the most important lesson the bible teaches, love thy neighbor! They refuse to embrace those who are different than they, so Christians create a chasm lined with messages of hate, disguised as pity, and false concern—mendacious concern for humanities eternal salvation.
Are Christians justified in doing so? According to the bible, yes they are. However, Christians do not follow the biblical prescription for witnessing and sharing of their faith. For the most part, Christians shove their beliefs down the throats of non-believers and point accusatory fingers in the direction of everyone with the exception of themselves. Not unlike a recent experience by a group of non-believing homosexuals who bellyached and moaned about how their lifestyle is oppressed because they feel society finds them contemptuous and because of their lifestyle choice, they feel as though they are outcast and not accepted as “normal”.
The event in question was a recent Gay Pride Parade in downtown Chicago. A group of gay men decided to seek refuge from the crowds and the summer heat, so they all gathered in a gay bar. The men began dancing in the ceiling-to-floor wall-to-wall windows, which faced the public street. They wore the same outfits they were wearing in the parade [generally known as a banana hammock, or a very revealing g-string bikini undergarment] and nothing more. All was well for about 10 minutes until they decided to disrobe and dance completely naked in full view of the public, swaying and swinging their prized possessions for all to see.
What was the problem? This was an invasion of every persons rights who felt violated by a couple of drunken homosexuals who felt no shame in acting like complete asses in public. The Christian parent who was overheard saying they decided to take their child to the Gay Pride Parade to see why the pastor of their church painted such a reviling picture of homosexuals during the previous Sundays hellfire and damnation sermon, well, let’s just say in this case the pastor won the battle and the war.
Case in point, neither side, not one person or faction has the right to intimidate, impose their beliefs, or otherwise condemn or degrade the other, but that does not stop them.
Recently, I joined the Patriot Guards. The Patriot Guards provide a safe environment for families of servicemen and women who sacrificed their lives in the line of duty. A so-called Christian church movement visits funerals and disturbs what should be a solemn funeral service with anti-Semitic protest and protest of a gay and homosexual hate nature. Motorcyclist nationwide are now involved with the Patriot Guards and I am proud to serve those men, women and their families who fought and died for my rights and my freedom.
Another problem faced is strictly put, a black and white issue. It is the race issue, which has gone on far too long. Americans are programmed to believe that a certain behavior is unacceptable, in the case of the racial matter justly so.
The problem is Americans become so ultra sensitive that they over react and the pendulum swings in the other direction—there is no sense of moderation—zero tolerance is taken to an extreme opposite, examples: Black Entertainment Network, Black History Month and African-American Association. It would not be acceptable to celebrate White History Month or have a Caucasian Entertainment Network, and let’s not open the can of worms about a Caucasian-American Association [I believe they used to call it the Klu Klux Klan—unacceptable and an abomination].
When a group of peoples, be they black, white, gay, Christian or otherwise unite and form what they believe to be a superior ideology setting standards higher than those previously held by society and they rebel against status quo, change the rules and history, they are by definition separatist and [at least in their minds] supremist. If we are all created as equals and to be treated as one then remove the oppressive labels and in doing so, remove the avenues of resentfulness and hate.
As far as African-American is concerned, everyone in American can trace his or her roots back to a mother country, however nobody is granted the legal right [African-American is printed on legal documentation and tax forms] to claim Mexican-American, Chinese-American, or Italian-American. Do I believe slavery was an abomination, yes I do. However, African-Americans were not the only slaves throughout history, but we are uber-sensitive to African-Americans.
Do not include African-American in the ethnicity of a person unless they are from Africa and they have defected to America. If you were born in America you are American. If you move to Canada or France do you think they will change society’s rules and legislature to recognize African-Canadian or African-French? Give it a try, I doubt you will be met wit favorable results. Just because an individual feel’s he or she is owed because his or her ancestor was a slave is no reason to swing the pendulum to the other direction.
The word Negro has been cast from society because the African-American population finds it offensive, however when the UNCF offers scholarships the word Negro is accepted vernacular in the African-American community [UNCF is an acronym for the United Negro College Fund perpetuating over 14 million dollars in revenue per year for scholarships to underprivileged African-Americans]. The word nigger has been abolished from the English language—rightly so, as it is offensive and demeaning. When a culture challenges society and ambitiously drives a nation to change a word because it is offensive and degrading, the same people who have been offended should not act as proponents to use the offensive word just because it is acceptable if it is used between two black persons. Unacceptable is unacceptable and absolutely no exceptions should be tolerated. To allow the use of the word on some occasions and not others, by some people and not others, is a clear contradiction and it promotes racial bias and prejudice.
I will also discuss the “r” word—retard. If anyone should be hyper-sensitive to the damage words can cause it is I, not just because I am a writer, but because I was a pudgy cross-eyed little tyke growing up and I had endured colossal amounts of verbal abuse. Back in my day, the word retard was as common and popular as the word Facebook is today. As history has proven, doctors used the “r” word in the diagnosis of many mental disorders when they did not know what the true cause of a mental disorder was. Kids slung the “r” word around at recess, in the gymnasium, and at home with their siblings. Hell, some parents even used the “r” word to embarrass their children when the kids acted outrageously or as in my case, an abusive parent may have used the “r” word as an everyday reference to their child.
A few weeks ago I was at a service station and I overheard a mechanic tell his assistant to “retard the accelerator”. This was surprising as it was the perfect usage of the word retard as it was used in its proper form. Being an English major I was both pleased and astonished to hear a mechanic use proper English. A soccer mom overheard and blasted the mechanic for using the “r” word, “how dare you say that word.” He was laughing, mostly out of embarrassment and confusion, but he was not wrong in what he said. He graciously apologized and she ranted for the next fifteen minutes about people disrespecting the “less fortunate” by using the “r” word. I wondered what went through the mechanics mind as he continued working on the car of a stark raving lunatic slinging outrageous embarrassing remarks at him while he “fixed” her car.
Again, I say, the pendulum is swinging. Americans are convinced something is wrong so they must refrain from it at all cost—political correctness. The hypersensitivity arouses a threat—a threat to conform or otherwise become a politically incorrect outcast shunned from the commonality of acceptance and the agency of political affection.
Do not get me wrong, I am not advocating anarchy I would just like to know, where is America’s backbone? Apathy and cowardice are all too often confused.
My American-Indian ancestors were victims of genocide and I do not go around throwing a tantrum to be recognized. And yes, I can say I am American-Indian because American-Indians are from America, but I do not, I refrain because I am American, born in America and I pay American taxes. I am not owed anything as a result of the loss of my American-Indian ancestors.
If I choose to use the word retard to describe letting up on, or releasing, the accelerator on my vehicle, get a grip and deal with it—retard your anger. If you are “truly” a Christian and you are living according to the life Christ portrayed and encouraged then reflect it in your life by loving one another. If you are gay and you wish to celebrate your lifestyle, and you desire respect and acceptance then treat your relationship as heterosexuals do—with dignity and discernment. Most of all, concern yourself with you. Do something monumental: be the change, and enjoy life and love everyone on equal terms—beginning with yourself.